The Sad Case of Steve McNair

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I feel i must make a quick comment on Steve McNair.

First off, does anyone deserve to die for infidelity?  Of course not. 

Is there a large percentage of athletes who have girlfriends or mistresses?  You had to be blind or a fool to not believe so.  A handful come out of the woodwork every year.

But do they deserve to be shot to death.  Even my cynical heart says no.  Taken for all that their worth in divorce?  Definitely.  The women who are cheated on who are, for the most part, single parents during the season deserve their fair share.  But killed…

That being said, McNair has no one but himself to blame.  You have to be responsible for the situations you are in.  And you have to be responsible for the consequences.  And the consequences, unfortunately, don’t always fit the “crime”.  If you are a blind man, should you be crossing a busy highway yourself?  If you are a pretty young woman, should you be going to a bar and getting trashed all by yourself?  NO!  Bad things happen when you make mistakes.  That’s not to say that the blind man who gets hit by a car deserves it, or the woman who is taken advantage by a predator while sloppy drunk deserves it, but as a human being, you have to make sure you do NOT put yourself in compromising positions.

And that is what McNair did.  Married with four children, and one, maybe two, girlfriends.  And the girl who allegedly shot him was 20 years old.  Twenty years old is not an adult these days.  legally, sure.  Emotionally?  Psychologically?  Many people in their early twenties are adults, but an equal amount are still children where it counts; in their heads.  This is not the eighteen hundreds when 20 year olds had families of their own.  This is the 21 century, when many 20 year olds get through college on their parents’ dime, or live at home, never have a real job, never learn the true worth of money, spend their days playing video games and drinking and swallowed by other selfish distractions.  Until you have a real job and live away from home and pay taxes, you don’t make that jump to adult.  Even if you have a kid of your own, you’re not really an adult.  Not if someone else is heavily supporting you.  You don’t evolve mentally to adulthood until you are self- sufficient and independent.

But I digress.  If McNair had been having affair with an adult, someone who was emotionally stable (and of course, not all adults are emotionally stable) then chances of a tragedy like this is less likely to happen.  But dating a 20 year old,  a child for all intents and purposes, is a dangerous game to play.  He gave her the world, and I can only assume he promised to divorce his wife, and when he failed to do, she got despondent.

And when she supposedly found out he was seeing someone else, a third woman, a woman who would take all of his money and attention, she snapped.  And we see the results.

Is Steve McNair to blame for his death?  To say no would be lying.  He is partially responsible.  He put himself a bad situation, and too often, bad things happen.  You have to make smart decisions, and if you don’t, you have to be aware of and accept the possible ramifications.  this isn’t a freak accident.  This was a situation of his own making, and he has paid the price for bad decisions.  he didn’t deserve to die, but unfortunately, life isn’t fair, and people don’t always get what they deserve.  Sometimes the penalty is too light, other times to hefty.

So the moral of the story is, if you are rich and going to cheat, find an adult.  An older woman is much less likely to shoot you.

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